What makes a person a good person or a bad person, it is not just what a person wants, or what they desire (and yes children, a desire can be “not to do things”), it is what they are willing to do to get what they want, that determines if you are a good person or not. Are you going to do things you know are wrong to get what you desire, are you going to hurt someone, neglect something, lie, cheat, steel, rip off a company, do nothing when something needs to be done, or are you going to do what is right? Who are you going to hurt to get what you want today?
If you ever want someone to feel comfortable coming to you when they have a problem and need to talk about it, do not judge others. That is God’s job. Life tends to be so much better when you get out of God’s chair. People see when you judge others, and then they fear being judged by you, so they will not talk to you. I just realized this when I wanted to talk to someone about a problem I was having, and decided against it because I recalled how she talks about others. Well, I guess it is just between me and God for now (we talk all the time).