Current mood:refreshed
Here is a quote I just read from my mother’s office:
“Truth is shunned when it is painful or calls for choices we don’t want to face. But we must dare to be totally committed to truth. Mental soundness is the continuous process of facing reality as it is, rather than how we wish it to be. To have the courage to live life on life’s terms, illusions must be given up. And who does that without a fight?”
It seems strange that just now at this point in my life, I would find something like that just sitting on the wall. I am sure it applies to so many other people, but it very directly has application to my current situation. There are things that I don’t want to hear but are true. In my mind, I am touching on important ideas but I think my mind recoils because I don’t want things to be that way, so I ignore the truth. I don’t want to ignore the truth anymore! I want to hear all the things that I don’t want to know, if that makes any sense. How can I grow when I can not see the truth?
The saying “the truth hurts” sucks, I hate it, there is so much meaning behind it and to just put it in 3 words makes it into a personal attack. This is why when talking to friends or people in general, I explain, I make sure they understand what I am saying, the real meaning, and can relate to it in some way, and then I present the horrible few word saying that people use.
I wish people would be more honest, or maybe that’s not the word, be more open. I have a hard time with people hiding the truth from you, it never does anyone any good. Do not spare my feelings, mash they into a pulp, if it is the truth, that is the most important thing. I can handle it. The truth can hurt both ways, the person telling another person the truth, and the receiver. But please, know that it is the best thing, be brave, tell them, although you may want to spare their feelings, do not spare them the truth, because in the end, you are keeping them from growing, from making those personal decisions that will make them a better person. With all severe mental problems aside, telling people the truth is the best thing.
Ok, even though I just laid that out there, I can not say that is best for everyone at all times, in the end though, telling them the truth is the best thing. And women out there, don’t count on hints, we are guys, we have thick heads, and so many of those hints go unnoticed. We are different creatures, know and love us for this, but also keep it in mind when it comes to communication, direct is the best. I am not encouraging guys to leave things unnoticed, or to not pay close attention, because we need to, but you can not ignore the fact that we can not catch on to everything.
I guess what I am saying is, don’t let your fears or feelings keep you from doing what is right, or from telling the truth to those close around you. Don’t be afraid to hurt them, it is a part of learning from your mistakes. The pain will pass with time while they make sense of what happened. They may have questions, and even then, don’t hold back, they just want to know what they did so that they do not do it again in the future, or can make personal choices to better themselves. Oh, and once again, this is assuming that you are dealing with someone who does not have severe mental problems.
I am done rambling and ranting for now. I am going to go do some things for me, I need more me time to balance things out. And people, get some sleep, things become so much more clear after a good night’s rest.